Helping veterans in your family (w/ Rex Parvin)

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Rex Parvin has two son-in-laws who’ve served. In fact, one serves now.

Furthermore, Rex leads a group for veterans. 

From the unique perspective of a father, he shares what to do— and what not to do— when it comes to helping your loved ones walk through the healing process. 

He says this— 

✅  Repeat the things that help— 

Don’t assume that everything you do (that works) is a “one and done.” Repeat them.

(By the way, the things that help could be different for different people. So don’t presume there’s a formula.)

✅  Expect it to be hard. 

Change is difficult. If you go into it expecting there to be challenges, you’ll realize that what you’re enduring is normal and common.

If you think transition will be easy, you’ll feel whammies.

✅  Listen to it, but don’t try to “fix it.”

Talking helps.

But don’t talk to anticipate what you’re going to say next and then dispense advice. Talk to listen… to be a sounding board.

And remember… it all comes down to relationships. Those require time and investment… but, like most long-term investments, the payoff is always worth it.

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Warriors on Mission = connect veterans to their next mission. The most common obstacles we see are 1) isolation and 2) unresolved hurts / unprocessed pain of the past. Finding that next mission matters because 1) you have a purpose, and 2) there are people who are going the affected (for the good!) by you living that mission. Those people include your family, your friends, and fellow service members…

Learn more at http://Warriorsonmission.org 

The Centers of Hope = https://thecentersofhope.org 

Stream Invisible Scars (PTSD) or Honoring the Code (Moral Injury) here: https://thecentersofhope.org/films/

Warrior Hope book = https://thecentersofhope.org/product/warrior-hope-basic-training-for-living-on-mission/ 

Warrior Hope online course = https://thecentersofhope.org/online-courses/